You know what wasn’t on my 2025 bingo card? Having a an argument with Hector about his family in front of our friends!
Last night felt like a scene from Euphoria where Cassie is going crazy and yells, “You don’t have to; I can fucking feel it!” I ended up playing the role of Cassie, and unfortunately, my friends felt a bit uncomfortable afterward.
So what led to this moment? Let’s rewind a little: It’s only three months into the year, and what a whirlwind it’s been! Just to recap: I started the year with fresh hopes, feeling great, then I lost my job for about two weeks before I happily landed my current one. I celebrated my birthday, we moved, and then there was some family drama with Hector’s side. His sisters had a long talk with him today, which led to my emotional moment.
When he came home, he was really chatty, but I was feeling down because it seemed like he was connecting with my sister. Honestly, I’ve struggled to bond with them, and it was tough to hear him say, “Well, they wish they knew you better.” I know for a fact that they don’t care about me.
For instance, a few months ago, we took our nieces to Disney on Ice, and it was such a fun day! Later, I asked his sister if she’d like to grab lunch together. She said no, and I totally get that sometimes people have other commitments, but it turned out they didn’t have any plans; they just went back home. I have to admit, it stung a little because I hoped we could spend some time together.
After being together for five years, I sometimes get the feeling that they still see me as the “new girlfriend” rather than a part of the family. It’s like they’re hesitant to get to know me, maybe because they think we might break up one day. I used to treat my brothers’ girlfriends the same way—never bothering to learn their names since they were only around for a short time. But this is different; we’ve been trying to build a life together over the last few years. With all those little moments adding up, it can be a bit hard not to feel overlooked when Hector comes home all cheerful and excited.
I know I’ve said it before but maybe I don’t want to marry into this family.
