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Are We Forgetting How to Write?

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What’s a skill you consider basic, that most people don’t actually know how to do?

Artificial intelligence has become an incredible tool for writers, students, and professionals alike. I use AI grammar editors myself, and I appreciate how quickly they catch mistakes and improve clarity. But lately, I’ve started to wonder if our growing dependence on these tools is causing us to lose one of the most basic skills we were taught in school.

Grammar, spelling, punctuation, and sentence structure aren’t just arbitrary rules. They’re the foundation of effective communication. From elementary school onward, we’re taught how to write clearly so we can express our ideas, communicate professionally, and understand one another. Yet today, many of us type first and rely on AI to fix everything afterward.

The convenience is undeniable, but it comes with a cost. When software automatically corrects every comma, misspelled word, or awkward sentence, we stop paying attention to why the correction was needed. Over time, those skills begin to fade because we no longer practice them ourselves.

I’m not suggesting we abandon AI. These tools are incredibly useful for proofreading, editing, and catching mistakes we might otherwise miss. However, they should enhance our writing—not replace the knowledge behind it.

If we continue to outsource basic writing skills to technology, future generations may never develop the confidence to write well without assistance. AI should be a helpful editor, not a substitute for literacy. The ability to communicate clearly is a lifelong skill, and it’s one worth preserving, even in an age where artificial intelligence can write almost anything for us.

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Emily Henry, We Need to Talk About That Ending

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If you could rewrite any book’s ending, which one would you choose?

āš ļø Spoiler warning forĀ Happy PlaceĀ by Emily Henry! āš ļø

This was one of those books I found through BookTok, and while I really enjoyed it overall, there’s one thing about the ending I just can’t stop thinking about.

For anyone who hasn’t read it yet,Ā Happy PlaceĀ is a second-chance romance about Harriet and Wyn, a couple who secretly broke up months ago but decide to pretend they’re still together during one last vacation with their close-knit group of friends. It’s funny, emotional, and explores friendship, love, burnout, and figuring out who you are outside of everyone else’s expectations.

Okay, this is where the spoilers really begin.

If I could change the ending ofĀ Happy PlaceĀ by Emily Henry, it would be this:

HarrietĀ doesn’tĀ abandon her residency and entire medical career to become an amateur potter—a career that definitely isn’t paying off those student loans anytime soon.

Instead, she realizes that her current specialty is destroying her mental health, switches to one that’s a better fit, and transfers her residency somewhere closer to home.

Seriously! Why couldn’t she have become the small town’s primary care physician? It would’ve made so much more sense. She still could’ve ended up with the Wyn, she’d get to keep the career she’d worked years for, and the town would actually gain a desperately needed doctor. To me, that feels like a much more satisfying—and realistic—happy ending.

Maybe that’s just the practical side of me talking, but I would’ve loved an ending that showed you don’t have to abandon everything you’ve worked for to build a happier life.

What do you think? If you’ve readĀ Happy Place, would you keep the ending as it is, or would you rewrite it too?

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Building the Community I Wish Existed

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What’s your biggest dream?

The older I get, the sillier my biggest dream sounds.

I want to do something that makes a difference.

Not in a ā€œchange the entire worldā€ kind of way, but in a way that changesĀ someone’sĀ world. I want to encourage people to be a little kinder, a little more hopeful, a little more content with the lives they already have.

That’s why I wanted to be a teacher when I was younger. It’s why I started this blog. It’s why I still want to write a novel someday. It’s why I’ve always wanted a YouTube channel.

I don’t want to be a motivational speaker or give TED Talk-style life advice. I don’t have all the answers.

I want to be the person saying, ā€œHey, I’m kind of a mess too. Here’s how I’m learning to be content with my life. Maybe something here will help you be content with yours.ā€

The problem is… I have very little faith in myself.

I recently realized I inherited that from my mom.

Shocker.

Despite that, I still keep coming back to the same dream: I want to build community.

It feels like something we’re desperately missing. There are people trying to create it, and I love seeing that, but it also feels like so many opportunities to connect come with a price tag.

I wanted to join a Silent Book Club, but they met at a cafĆ© where everyone was expected to spend at least $5 every visit. Five dollars isn’t much on its own, but meeting twice a week adds up quickly.

I joined a women’s walking group and genuinely loved it. Then gas prices climbed, and driving to the meetup every week became harder to justify.

I even considered joining a pickleball league, but by the time you buy athletic clothes, a paddle, balls, and decent shoes if you don’t already own them, it’s another expensive hobby.

Maybe this is something I notice more because I’m broke.

Or maybe a lot more people feel this way than we realize.

I want to find ways for people to spend time together that don’t require constantly opening their wallets. Places where you can show up exactly as you are, without feeling like community is another subscription service.

Maybe that’s the dream I’ve been chasing all along.

I don’t know exactly what it’ll look like yet.

I just know I want to create something that makes people feel a little less alone.

And I believe I’ll find that community someday.

It might take a while, but I think it’ll be worth the wait.

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Anne Shirley

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If you could have dinner with any fictional character, who would it be?

I feel likeĀ my answer toĀ this questionĀ changes depending onĀ my mood orĀ whatever I’ve been reading or watching lately. I’veĀ answered this promptĀ before with ElizabethĀ Bennet and LunaĀ Lovegood, but myĀ current answer isĀ Anne Shirley. There will always be a special place in my heart for Anne of Green Gables, the book series and most adaptations.

Specifically, I’d loveĀ to have dinnerĀ with Anne in Anne of WindyĀ PoplarsĀ orĀ Anne’s House of Dreams. In those booksĀ she’s in herĀ twenties, right beforeĀ and just afterĀ marrying Gilbert.

There’s something aboutĀ Anne’sĀ outlook on life that makes meĀ want to spendĀ an evening with her. The conversationĀ would be wonderful, the food andĀ gossip wouldĀ undoubtedly be entertaining, but more thanĀ anything, I’d loveĀ to hear herĀ perspective.Ā I especially loveĀ seeing how sheĀ grows in theseĀ books while stillĀ holding onto theĀ imagination and warmthĀ that makeĀ her so unmistakablyĀ Anne.

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I Think I Have a Scrolling Problem

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What app eats up most of your screen time — and do you even feel bad about it?

For me, it’s not just one app. It’s two. TikTok and Instagram have me in a chokehold.

When I was working, my entire lunch break was spent scrolling videos. I would tell myself I was just taking a quick break, and suddenly my lunch was over. Now that I’m not working, my screen time has somehow jumped to 10 hours a day, and almost all of it is still TikTok and Instagram. It’s honestly kind of impressive when you think about it- like in a pathetic way.

I did download a game, but if I’m being realistic, I barely touch it compared to the amount of videos I consume every day. Apparently watching strangers organize their pantry, deep clean their house, and tell dramatic storytimes has become my full-time hobby.

I also read that you’re supposed to post every time you open the app to make yourself more intentional about using it. In theory, that sounds great. In reality, no one needs to hear from me every 10 minutes. I would become everyone’s most muted person within a week.

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Y2K Can Stay… But Low-Rise Has To Go

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If you could erase one trend from history, what would it be?

It would be low-rise jeans. I’m so serious. I thank the universe every single day that I was just a little kid during the early 2000s because I truly dodged a bullet.

And now that Y2K is back… why are we pretending this was a good idea? I don’t want whale tails. I don’t want muffin tops. I don’t want to spend my entire day worried that my jeans are sliding off my body. Some trends can stay in the history books or just never have existed.

Don’t get me wrong, every generation has its beauty disasters. Right now it’s blush blindness, and some of y’all are looking like you ran a marathon before doing your makeup.

But I can’t even judge too hard because the 2010s had us walking around with one thick stripe of bronzer and contour that was absolutely refusing to blend. We really thought we ate. Still, I’ll take a muddy contour over low-rise jeans every single time.

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My iPod

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Which outdated technology do you miss the most, and why?

There was something so simple and satisfying about an iPod. I only had the songs I intentionally chose to put on it, so every track felt personal.

Today, with Apple Music and Spotify, I have access to millions of songs, which is amazing, but it can also feel overwhelming. I honestly listen to many of the same songs anyway, so having endless options doesn’t always make the experience better.

Making playlists now can even feel a little performative, especially when they’re shared with other people. Instead of creating them just for myself, it sometimes feels like I’m curating a version of my music taste for others to see.

My iPod was private, uncomplicated, and distraction-free. I could just plug in my headphones, press play, and enjoy the music without notifications, algorithms, or the pressure to constantly discover something new.

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The Books I Will Never Stop Rereading

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Which book have you read more than any other?

Every reader hasĀ thoseĀ books. The ones you finish only to immediately start thinking about reading again. The ones that feel like comfort food in book form.

When I saw this prompt, my first thought was that I’m sure a lot of people would answerĀ the Bible. If you go to church every week and attend Bible study, it’s probably the book you’ve spent the most time reading. Honestly, it should probably be my answer too. But I don’t really count it because, for me, it’s not usually a start-to-finish read. I’m typically reading specific books, chapters, or passages depending on what we’re studying, so it feels different than rereading a novel from cover to cover.

For me, it’s not just one book—it’s a whole tradition.

Every single year, I rereadĀ Pride and Prejudice. I don’t think I’ll ever get tired of Elizabeth Bennet roasting people with impeccable manners or Mr. Darcy slowly becoming one of the greatest romantic leads of all time. It’s one of those stories that somehow gets better every time I read it.

I also rereadĀ Much Ado About NothingĀ every year. Shakespeare can be intimidating, but this play has always been one of my favorites. The banter between Beatrice and Benedick is still top-tier enemies-to-lovers, and honestly, I don’t think anyone has done it better in over 400 years.

Then, every two years, I used to reread the entireĀ Twilight Saga. Say what you want about Twilight—I genuinely love it. It’s nostalgic, cozy, and reminds me of being a teenager. There’s something comforting about revisiting Forks every couple of years.

Well… thereĀ was.

About a year ago, when Hector and I were moving, I somehow managed to accidentally put my Twilight books in the donation box. I didn’t realize it until they were already gone. I’m still not over it. Somewhere out there, someone got a free Twilight collection, and I hope they’re enjoying it because I’m still mourning the loss.

One day I’ll replace them and start my reread tradition again. Until then, Pride and Prejudice and Much Ado About Nothing are holding down the fort.

Apparently, I’m just the kind of reader who likes revisiting old favorites as much as discovering new stories. There’s something special about returning to books that have grown with you through different stages of life.

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The Hard Years

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What’s a chapter of your life you’d title ā€œThe Hard Yearsā€ — and what got you through it?

If I had to give one chapter of my life a title,Ā ā€œThe Hard Yearsā€ it’s definitely when I was leaving las Vegas in 2019.

Not because it was the worst thing that’s ever happened to me, but because it changed me in ways I didn’t understand until years later.

When I was 21, I got kicked out of my parents’ house.

At the time, it felt like my entire world had been flipped upside down. Before all of that happened, my mom and I talked every single day. She was one of the first people I’d call if something happened, whether it was good or bad. Then suddenly… nothing.

The silence was honestly the hardest part.

People assume getting kicked out is mostly about finding somewhere to live or figuring out money, and those things are incredibly difficult. But for me, losing that daily relationship with my parents hurt more than anything else.

Looking back now, I don’t deny that I was wrong. I understand why my parents made the decision they did. At 21, I couldn’t see it. I was hurt, angry, and convinced they didn’t understand me.

Now, years later, I can admit that if I were in my parents’ position, I probably would have made the same choice.

That doesn’t mean it didn’t hurt.

Two things can be true at the same time.

So what got me through it?

Honestly, I distracted myself with life.

I worked. I spent time with friends. I focused on whatever was right in front of me because thinking about what I’d lost was too painful. I don’t know if distraction is the healthiest coping mechanism, but at the time it was the only one I had.

Little by little, things started to heal.

When I turned 22, my mom and I slowly found our way back to each other. We started talking again, and over time our relationship became strong again.

My relationship with my stepdad took a little longer. We didn’t really get back to where we used to be until I was almost 24. Healing isn’t always quick, and every relationship moves at its own pace.

Now, I don’t take either of those relationships for granted.

As I’m getting ready to become a mom myself, I think about those years differently than I used to. Parenting isn’t just about loving your child. Sometimes loving them means making decisions they’ll hate you for in the moment because you believe it’s what’s best for them.

I hope I never have to make that kind of decision.

But if I ever do, I understand it in a way that 21-year-old me never could.

Those years were painful, lonely, and full of growing up faster than I wanted to. I wouldn’t want to relive them, but I also wouldn’t erase them.

They taught me accountability.

They taught me that relationships can survive even after they’re broken.

Most importantly, they taught me that forgiveness doesn’t erase the past—it allows you to build a future together anyway.

ā€œThe Hard Yearsā€ eventually came to an end.

And now, as I prepare to start a brand-new chapter with my own little family, I’m grateful that mine found their way back to each other.

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If I Could Live Anywhere in the World

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If you could live anywhere in the world, where would it be?

If I could live anywhere in the world, and money wasn’t an issue, I’d choose a beach house somewhere along the Northern California coast. Maybe near Monterey, or even farther north toward Eureka. I’d also love just about anywhere along the coast of Oregon or Washington.

What I’m really after is that small-town waterfront vibe—the kind you see in Hallmark movies. Cozy local shops, misty mornings by the water, friendly neighbors, scenic views, and a slower pace of life. It just feels peaceful, charming, and like the perfect place to call home.