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Maybe Someone Needs Your Story

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One thing I genuinely love about living with my parents is that, no matter how much they don’t always agree with my choices or ideas, they encourage me.

The other day my dad asked, “Whatever happened to that book you started writing back in 2019?”

I shrugged it off. I told him it was a silly concept, that I realized how many other stories it resembled, and eventually I just abandoned it.

The truth is, I come from an incredibly creative family, but I’ve never really considered myself a creative person.

My dad is an artist at heart. Back in the early 2000s, he taught himself computer animation just because he thought it was fun. Before that, he’d make little claymation videos. He never wanted to turn it into a career—he just loved creating.

My mom is constantly making something. She can sew, crochet, and has always been incredibly tactile. Growing up, so many of my Halloween costumes were handmade by her. More recently, when I mentioned wanting to open a bakery someday, she surprised me by sewing me two custom aprons.

My brother has always been the musical one. I can read sheet music after years of playing the violin, but my brother has something you can’t really teach—a natural ear for rhythm and harmony.

And then there’s my sister, who’s literally a tattoo artist. She draws, she paints, and she sees things others don’t  

Compared to all of them, I always felt like I couldn’t make anything.

I can’t draw.

I can’t paint.

I can’t sculpt.

So somewhere along the way, I convinced myself that food and words didn’t count.

Which is kind of ridiculous when I actually think about it.

I love literature. I love storytelling. I have an incredibly strong sense of taste and smell. I can usually taste a dish and figure out most of the ingredients without ever looking at the recipe. I can recreate recipes by instinct more often than not.

But for some reason, I never saw those things as creativity.

So I told my dad about the book. How I kept stopping. How I’d tried NaNoWriMo multiple times and never finished. How I always found a reason to quit before I really got started.

Instead of giving me a speech, he showed me a low-budget movie someone had uploaded to YouTube.

It’s only about an hour long. It’s not some cinematic masterpiece. It doesn’t have a huge budget or famous actors.

But someone had a story they wanted to tell.

After we watched it, he asked me one simple question:

“Do you have a story you want to tell?”

And my answer was yes.

I do.

It’s scary to think about putting months—or years—into writing a book that hardly anyone may ever read. It’s scary knowing it might never become a bestseller or get published by a major publisher.

But maybe that’s not the point.

Maybe it’ll be like that little YouTube movie.

Maybe only a handful of people ever find it.

Maybe one person reads it at exactly the right moment.

Maybe it captures someone’s attention just enough to make them think, I could tell my story too.

And honestly, I think that’s enough of a reason to write it.

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Crochet Countdown: 45 Days to Finish This Baby Blanket

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I have officially given myself a deadline: I want this baby blanket finished by September 1st, which means I have 45 days left.

The blanket is going to be a Neapolitan ice cream theme—pink, cream, and brown—and I’m making it entirely out of granny squares. I need 42 squares total, plus the border.

The good news? I’ve already finished 6 squares.

Which means I only have 36 more to go.

Honestly, that sounds a lot less intimidating than 42. If I can crochet just one granny square a day, I’ll finish with time to spare.

The only problem is… I have carpal tunnel.

Some days crocheting for even a short amount of time makes my wrist and hand ache, so I can’t exactly sit down and crank out ten squares in an afternoon. This is definitely going to be one of those slow-and-steady projects.

Then there’s Problem Number Two.

I bought all of this yarn three years ago because I originally planned to make myself a crochet cardigan. That project never happened, and when I found out I was pregnant, I figured, “Well… I already have the yarn. Why not make a baby blanket instead?”

Great idea… until I realized I’m almost out of the pink.

Of course.

Michael’s still carries plenty of yarn, but not the brand I originally bought, so I can’t just run to the store and grab another skein. Now I’m crossing my fingers that I somehow have enough to finish all of the pink squares because matching dye lots—or even finding the exact same shade—is probably not happening.

And if that wasn’t enough to overthink, I’m also wondering if I made the wrong choice with the yarn itself.

It’s 100% cotton, which is great because it’s breathable and durable, but it isn’t nearly as soft as I picture when I think of a baby blanket. Part of me keeps wondering if it’ll soften up after a few washes.

My first thought was, “Maybe I’ll just use fabric softener.”

But then I remembered I grew up being told never to use fabric softener on cotton clothes because it can affect the fibers and make them less absorbent. So now I’m second-guessing everything.

I’m hoping once the blanket is finished and washed, it’ll soften naturally with use. If not… well, this baby is getting a handmade blanket made with a whole lot of love, even if it’s not the fluffiest blanket in the nursery.

Now if you’ll excuse me, I have 36 granny squares waiting for me.

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Creating Just for Me

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I want to start painting again. I do paint sometimes, but I’m not very good, and that usually makes me stop. I tend to think of painting and drawing as talent-based, even though I know they’re really a mix of talent and skill—and skill takes work.

I was recently thinking about Ed Sheeran on The Graham Norton Show, showing how rough he sounded when he was younger compared to now. What changed wasn’t just ability—it was passion and persistence. He cared enough to keep improving. I think that’s where I struggle. I’m good at starting things, but not so great at sticking with them. That’s not exactly new—I’ve been saying the same thing since I started this blog in 2019.

I don’t want to be a famous painter. I just want a hobby that’s mine, something I can get better at and enjoy. I’m great at baking and pretty good at writing, but even those don’t always feel like hobbies. Baking is more of a stress outlet, and writing can start to feel like work—especially when I think about the countless stories I’ve started and never finished.

As a small step toward that softer kind of life I’ve been wanting, I actually signed up for a painting event in Long Beach soon. It feels a little out of my comfort zone, but in a good way—like I’m letting myself try something without needing to be good at it right away. Maybe that’s the point this time: to show up, take it slow, and just enjoy creating something that’s only for me.

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From Abandoned Projects to Creative Comebacks

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Okay listen… I know, I know—I’m a quitter. Was a quitter. Let’s say I’m  “in recovery,” okay? Breaking that habit is no joke though, especially when quitting has always been my emotional support hobby. Life gets overwhelming and suddenly scrolling, snacking, and napping feels like the holy trinity instead of… actually finishing anything.

And it reminds me of that Gilmore Girls moment where Paris goes:
“She’s got a ‘C’ average, which means she’s either lazy or stupid. I can work with either. Frankly, sometimes stupid is easier. I can scare the stupid out of you, but the lazy runs deep.”

Now listen—I’m not stupid. That’s not up for debate.
But lazy? …yeah, I fear Paris would have a field day with me.

BUT. Plot twist. Character development. Redemption arc incoming.

It’s official: I’m launching my ✨Comeback Tour✨starring every project I ever ghosted. Here’s a not-so-fun confession: The last time I posted anything remotely artsy was way back in 2023. Yikes! The creative guilt is real! In honor of my half-finished crafts, I’m breaking out the classic Blend the Rules feature pic—because following the script just isn’t my style!

Exhibit A: I started crocheting tiny dog and cat dolls for my friend’s baby… when said friend was still pregnant.
That baby is turning THREE this year.
THREE.
Anyway!!!(Don’t judge—I just found the pattern again: Tuna and Bones Free Amigurumi Patterns (Crochet Dog Pattern & Crochet Cat Pattern) | Needlepointers.com)

Exhibit B: the cardigan. The cardigan™. The one I dramatically started four years ago and then ghosted like it texted me “hey.”
Tell me why I also found the exact video I was using back then?? The universe said “you’re not escaping this one.”

Exhibit C: the chicken purse.
When I tell you this obsession came back HARD—like why are there a million variations and why do I suddenly need all of them??
Also… I found my old unfinished project and genuinely thought it was a failed beanie. Nope. It was the chicken bag. I abandoned her mid-cluck 😭

AND because I clearly don’t believe in easing into things, I’m also jumping back on the sourdough train. Yes, like 2020 me.
Do I know where my original starter is? Absolutely not. She’s gone. Lost to history.
But I have a new one now!!! And her name?
✨Doughbi Wan Kenobi✨
Was it necessary? No.
Does it bring me immense joy? Yes.

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A Backyard Paint and Picnic

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I’m planning an amazing Paint and Picnic party in my backyard, obvi it will be after Hector’s party and I can’t wait to host! This is such an exciting opportunity for me since I’ve never really had the chance to gather friends like this before. Back when I lived in Vegas, I had friends, but we weren’t close enough to hang out at each other’s places. It wasn’t until my early 20s that I finally started feeling comfortable visiting others’ homes, and even then, I mostly enjoyed their company at one particular friend’s house. 

Now that I’ve moved, I really want to switch things up! I can only imagine how exhausting it must be for her to host all the time. She always provides us with delicious food, endless snacks, and refreshing drinks. While we all pitch in, she still covers most of it! It’s time for me to create my own space for gatherings and make unforgettable memories with friends. 

What is a paint and picnic, you ask? It’s exactly what it sounds like—and it’s going to be a blast! I’ve always loved the concept of paint and sip, and though I haven’t been to a studio yet, I’ve had a blast doing it with friends. Now, imagine this: we have a gorgeous day ahead, and I want to take full advantage of it by hosting our very own picnic outside! I’m already buzzing with excitement as I plan the menu, and I can’t wait to get into the nitty-gritty of organizing this fun-filled day! Let’s make some colorful memories!

I’m so excited to share my planned menu! I’m all about embracing those fresh spring flavors, and everything is designed to be casual, easy to prep in advance, and absolutely delicious! 

Imagine indulging in vibrant tomato and pesto pinwheels, a refreshing pasta salad bursting with seasonal ingredients, and sipping on a delightful elderberry lemonade that screams spring. 

For dessert, you can’t go wrong with a no-bake blackberry pie that’s as easy to make as it is to devour! And let’s not forget the charcuterie board — a beautiful spread of berries, grapes, an array of cheeses, and crispy crackers to round it all out. Maybe I’m crazy, but I prefer my “adult Lunchables,” as Hector calls them, not to have meats.

Alright, so yes, I’m definitely in it for the food (who wouldn’t be?), but let’s be real—the real excitement here is the paint part! Here’s what you’ll need to make it a blast:

  • Painting Kit – Grab your canvas, easel, paintbrushes, paint, and a water cup. Get ready to unleash that inner artist!
  • Protective Gear – Ain’t nobody got time for spills. Throw down a tablecloth and rock an apron. No stress, just fun!
  • Decor – Totally optional, but trust me, it takes the whole vibe to the next level. Set the mood with some cool lighting or funky accents.
  • Snacks & Drinks – Seriously, what’s a party without some munchies? Grab your favorite snacks and drinks, because creativity thrives on a full stomach. 
  • Good Vibes – This is a paint party, not a gallery. Have fun, get messy, and let the laughter flow!

Let’s get ready to paint, laugh, and maybe spill a little paint while we’re at it!

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Microblogging March Madness

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You’ve probably heard of March Madness. Well, this is Microblogging March Madness. And this is nothing like regular March Madness. I’m just stealing the name. You guys read it here first: I’m a thief, a pilferer, a copycat, a scoundrel- do they call women scoundrels?

Anyway, I am excited to embark on a challenge that will help me improve my writing skills. By limiting my posts to 100 words or less, I will learn to make my writing more concise and impactful. I want to inspire others to set their challenges, big or small, and work towards achieving their goals.

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I Am

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Picture this – you’re standing in front of a room full of curious strangers, feeling their eyes on you as you’re challenged to introduce yourself through the art of poetry. That was me this morning! It was an electrifying experience that left me feeling invigorated, creative, and inspired. By creating an “I Am” poem, I got to explore my past, present, and future, and express myself in just five lines for each. It was a daunting task, but the thrill of the challenge is simply undeniable!

I Am

I come from a household where family is who you choose,

Hardworking hands raised me to be strong-minded and bold

Made in grandma’s kitchen and seasoned with traditions and tattoos,

I come from Spanish songs danced beside an altar full of marigolds

I am the runt of the family, with five competitive siblings, and I’m not one to lose,

I am a love letter to classic poetry and books,

I am music notes memorized on violin strings

I am a blogger who keeps her readers attached like fish on hooks,

I am the aunt who spoils the kids with a million and one different things,

I am a student who spends her time playing animal crossing and paying Tom Nook,

I am going to be the first in my family with a college degree,

I will be a safe space for my family and friends as they would for me,

I will be an entrepreneur and not some want to be

I will keep pushing myself to be the best version of me

I will be happy wherever life takes me

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Teaching Myself to use Watercolor

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Today I will blend some rules while teaching myself to use watercolor paint.

I like to think of myself as a creative person, but I’m not very good at the means of traditional art. I have an image in my head, and sometimes I have difficulty putting it on paper when drawing or painting. I’m also a little hard on myself since I’m a perfectionist.

Now I’ve seen a lot of videos about painting, and everyone says the same thing. Watercolor is harder to use, so I should start with acrylic paint. Controversial opinion, but I’m not too fond of acrylic paint. I like the control I have when using watercolors.

Thank god for the internet. I’ve learned different tricks and tips from watching YouTube and TikTok.

And these people are self-taught artists – I mean, every artist is probably self-taught. I mean, these people are definitely not art school graduates.

Now my goal isn’t to become the next Monet. I want to experiment with art without feeling like I’m wasting supplies or my time.

Now I didn’t rush out to buy expensive art supplies. I used the paint from a Target art supply kit, and a friend gifted me the paper.

I just used layers. I started with a thin detail brush and made a rough outline. I don’t like sketching with a pencil in watercolor painting because I don’t know how well I’ll be able to cover the pencil.

It was mostly layering colors, and I don’t know if there’s a word for this, but I would use a dry brush to remove paint when I thought it was too piled up.

I’m pleased with my results.

I need more practice. I want to experiment more and learn to paint bigger pieces of art. I would love to one day own my own house and have random art on the walls and have some of those be my art.

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And when I felt like I was an old cardigan

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I’ve said a few times that I want to be more creative and try to express myself through different types of art. I have a habit of starting hobbies and then never following through. I’m trying to change that and use all the materials I have at my disposal. I’m going to start actively giving updates on projects and calling it Blend The Rules.

This is obviously the Lately, I’ve been searching for a crocheted or knitted cardigan.

After searching for what felt like forever, I found some sweaters. I didn’t have any specific pattern or design in mind. I wanted a chunky cardigan. The only downside was all the nice ones I loved were between $200- $400. There’s no way I can spend that much on a sweater. I’m poor.

So my self-confidence led me to believe I could make my sweater. I don’t know where that confidence came from, honestly. The last time I knitted, sewed, or crocheted was in 2017. I made a cow print and denim skirt, and everyone around me was like, “eww, cow print.” only for it to be the next popular trend.

So now I’m stumbling through a teach yourself to crochet book. It is worth it. It was $12 from Walmart. It’s a complete kit; you only need to buy the yarn.

I haven’t done much yet, but I did make a tiny little heart.

I don’t have a pattern for the sweater. I’m going to play it by ear.

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Do You Comma Here Often

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I’m not the most skilled writer.

I’m challenging myself to become a better writer. I rely on the use of adverbs and adjectives in my storytelling. My primary weak points are grammar, spelling, and sentence structure. That is one of the reasons why it takes forever for me to get to a point.

“Adverbs are the tools of a lazy writer.” -Mark Twain

I’m not terrible at writing, but I still need to work. Am I better at writing now than I was in high school? Yes. Will I be a better writer in another seven years? Yes. Getting better at anything takes practice, time, and effort.

My partner got me a 100 prompt notebook after I told him I wanted to practice my writing skill. I love a supportive partner.

So welcome to our new Wednesday segment: Do You Comma Here Often?

Today’s prompt is to write a short scene without using adverbs or adjectives.

“The path to Hell is paved with adverbs.” -Stephen King

The scene:

The sun is beating down on the field as the high school football game is about to begin. A group of boys are looking for seats on the bleachers. One of the boys spots a familiar face in the sea of faces. The girl notices him at the same time. Waving her hands, she yells, “over here,” getting the group’s attention. The boys make their way to her. Sensing the group’s hesitation, she moves, smiling at the person closest to her.

“Why don’t you come over here by me?” She asked, batting her lashes. The boy’s face blushes as he sits beside her.

Before anyone can say anything else, the drum line starts on the field.